Before every spanking, I remove all of my clothes and stand in the corner, while I wait for J. I usually end up standing there for 10 to 20 minutes. During this time I can clearly think about the spanking I am about to get, and the reasons why, without any distractions.
For the daily motivation spanking, this means that I think about how many more things I’ve been able to get done since we started this, how much more motivated I have been, how these spankings seem to keep me going when I want to stop. The spankings hurt, but when I imagine what a punishment spanking would feel like, it makes me stick to accomplishing the things I said I would.
For the daily submission spankings, I think about how J works so hard at his career and he provides for us in many ways to give us this charmed life, there’s no reason why I can’t give him the pleasure he desires. I told him I would be sexually submissive to him, and when he spanks my pussy I am reminded of this. And again, I would not want to get a punishement spanking, so this is a good reminder of how much worse that would be.
By the time J comes in, I am usually in a submissive mood and ready to get spanked. J doesn’t lecture me all the way through the spankings, but he does go over the things we’ve discussed and always asks me if I disagree with anything or if anything needs to be altered in the way we are doing things. So far the only thing we’ve changed is the weekends are now off days, as far as spankings go. We are just too busy and we have found it is good to relax from all the weekly demands.
In the last post I talked about daily spankings for motivation. We are also spanking for submission training.
I am naturally sexually submissive, but don’t always make the extra effort to show it. Daily pussy spankings help in this area.
These daily spankings occur separately from the motivation spankings I get. Though they are similar. Both are meant as reminders and to help me imagine what a punishment spanking would be, so that I avoid it.
J mostly uses his hand and a light leather strap for the pussy spankings. Occasionally he uses a crop and a thin light piece of wood. All of them sting in different ways and leave a short but effective impression.
There is something freeing about being sexually submissive to my husband. Our sex life is amazing when we devote time to this.
We are several weeks in and though it’s not always easy for me, my levels of submission seem to have pleased J. And that makes me happy.
J and I had a long discussion the other evening about discipline and spankings and related things we’ve tried. We agreed that things not only run smoother, but we also have lots more fun when we are practicing our version of DD (domestic discipline). I say our version because we don’t subscribe to any specific doctrine or rules about DD. We do what works for us, and that has involved a lot of trial and error over the years. Sometimes we try something new and it works well for us, othertimes we abandon it for something more effective.
We decided I needed some training to get back on track. To us, this is a way for me to practice my motivation and submission to J. The training is something new for us. It requires daily attention, which is something we did not have time for in the past.
I have trouble staying motivated, and I often put things off that need to get done, but when J spanks me and holds me accountable, it helps me immensely. I find that I want to get everything done on my to do list; I want to accomplish what I say I’m going to accomplish. Simple as that.
Since nothing we have ever tried has ever worked long term for us we decided to do something a little bit different. So I have been getting daily spankings. In the past we tried weekly spankings, but I found that after a day or two I forgot about them and slacked off. With this daily reminder, I am constantly thinking about it. The effectiveness of this was noticable almost immediately by both myself and J.
The daily spanking isn’t severe, it is not a punishment. It is meant to keep me focused and remind me that a punishment will be much worse and not something that will be easy for either of us. J has been alternating between using his hand, a large round wooden paddle, and a thick wide leather strap. As he spanks me, he reminds me of what I said I want to accomplish.
I feel comforted by these daily spankings. For one, I know that I don’t have to purposely skip something on my to do list when I want a spanking. Nor do I have to ask for a spanking. Simply put, I know I am going to get spanked. Every. Day.
I am also grateful that J takes the time every single day to focus solely on me and my needs, which encourages me to work even harder toward my goals.
We are Cassady and Jack, a married couple who practice a version of Domestic Discipline (DD).
Some of you probably read us over at cassadyandjack.blogspot.com. We’ll be leaving that site up for archival purposes, but everything new will be posted here. And we do have a lot that’s new.
As you may have noticed, we didn’t blog for several years. So much was happening in our lives that we didn’t have the time or energy. There were several deaths in our families that required us to be apart for months and travel back and forth between states. We also moved during that time. It was exhausting. Life has settled down again, and after many stops and starts, and lots of trial and error, we are back on track.
I’m hoping to have more time to devote to the blog from now on.
Thanks to those who sent messages of concern about our absence. I tried to respond to everyone and in the future I’ll be much better about correspondence.
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