Moving Right Along

I don’t have much to report this week. We’ve been moving right along with the daily spankings.  I’ve been staying motivated to get everything completed without too much trouble.

Gladly, I have not yet earned myself a serious punishment spanking. The things I’ve set out to accomplish have been getting done.

Not to say we haven’t been having any fun.  J still likes to swat my ass for fun and pleasure.  The other night, we were watching TV and hadn’t yet closed the windows, even though it was dark outside.

J had the bright idea of pulling me half over his lap and half over the edge of the couch and giving me a “gentle” “fun” spanking.  HE says it’s gentle and fun.  I say it’s not so gentle and just a little fun! LOL!

He first stripped me of all clothing. We don’t have close neighbors, so I wasn’t too worried about anyone seeing or hearing us, but it still feels very exposing to have the windows open with nothing between you and the outside except for a screen.

After a few moments, J slipped his hand lower and could feel how wet I was.  He rubbed my clit with me still over his lap and the couch. He told me not to cum until he said I could.  It is so hard to hold back when he does this!  Finally he said “cum for me”, which I did almost immediately. Afterwards he pulled me to him and wrapped his arms around me.

After I recovered, he gently pushed me down to my knees in front of him and told me to open my mouth. He guided his penis to my waiting tongue. He was already so turned on that it didn’t take him too long to cum.  Lucky for me, he did not make me swallow. He gave me a few seconds warning, and then came on his stomach.  I was nice enough to fetch a washcloth and clean him up, though!

We spent the rest of the evening contentedly relaxing next to each other.

Getting Things Done & Paying Attention

This week, I have a longer list of things I need to do, due to some friends of ours coming to visit for the weekend.  I left a few things for the last minute and J asked me a few times how my list was coming along.

I am mildly addicted to this game on my phone and after dinner last night, I was playing, as usual. J again asked me how my list was coming and I mumbled something that was not a satisfactory answer.

Being hyper focused on the game, I just wasn’t thinking.

J immediately said, “Stand Up.”

My head snapped up and at first, I started to say I would get right on those chores.

J said, “This isn’t even about that, it’s about you ignoring me when I’m trying to have a conversation with you.”

“Oh” was all I could really say.

I stood up and J guided me to a bent position over the arm of our couch.
Conveniently I was wearing a skirt with nothing under it, which is something J prefers, so it’s my go to house attire.

I heard him take off his belt as he was saying, “What if I was telling you something important?”

“I would’ve tuned in if you were.”

“I’m not so sure. You need to take your head out of that game once in awhile.”

At that, J lifted my skirt and swatted each cheek with the belt 3 times, very quickly and I let out a small yelp after each one.

It really wasn’t so bad, and I was quickly eyeing my phone, ready to get back to my game.

However, J wasn’t finished.
“Hand me your phone,” he said.

“You heard me.”
“But I was just about to…”

J interrupted and said, “Whatever is happening in your game can wait until tomorrow.”

“What if I get an emergency call?” I argued.
“I’ll have your phone, so I’ll see it.”

I reluctantly handed over my phone, and he put it in his shirt pocket, where I could see it.

J explained, “You are grounded from your game and your phone for the rest of the evening. You can have it back at bedtime.”

I somehow managed to get through the rest of the night without my phone.

And today I finished all but 1 thing I need to do before the weekend.
Now, I must get back to my game!

Getting to Cum & New Morning Pussy Spanking

In my last blog I said I’d tell you about getting to cum 2 weeks ago.

So, here’s the story.  J told me I was allowed to cum as soon as I swallowed his cum.  I held out for 2 whole weeks, simply because I do not like to swallow.  The taste and texture is extremely unpleasant. But my clit was throbbing and so swollen.

So one evening I knelt in front of J and started giving him head.  When he was close he asked if I was ready and I nodded.  Three spurts later and I had swallowed it all.  It went down fairly easy because of the angle, but it still took hours before the taste went away.

Afterwards, J rewarded me with his amazing fingers.  They danced all over my clit and in and out of my various holes. I came so hard that I literally cried.

It took a few days after that for me to get back into a submissive headspace. Because of that, J has decided I will not be allowed to cum very often. When I am kept constantly in a constantly horny state, not only am I much more submissive, I also want J’s cock all the time.  So, of course he loves that.

We’ve added morning pussy spankings to our daily repertoire. It’s not that I’m not being submissive, but when I am this horny, it is hard to keep my hands above my waist.  This is J’s reminder to me that I am not allowed to cum.  And it also helps to remind me that I asked to be submissive to him.

So in the mornings, after we shower, J has been leading me to the bed, having me lay on my back, and holding my legs up and spread, and he whips me with a strap or a belt on my pussy lips. He spanks me a few times very hard and very quickly.

My clit is throbbing and just begging for some attention and release. There have been a few times when I’ve reached my fingers down and started fondling my lips, but then I notice they are a bit sore and I remember the morning spanking and I withdraw my hand. So it would seem J knows what he’s doing by administering these morning reminders. Not that I had any doubt.

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2 Months in and already Behind

Well well well it seems that after only 2 months of this blog, I’m already behind in writing.  But this time it wasn’t my fault!  No, really.

My brother has a habit of visiting without a lot of advanced warning. I don’t mind his visits, but it does prevent J and I from doing any spanking activities. About 2 weeks ago brother called and said he was “passing through” town.  His visits range anywhere from a weekend to a month, so I’m never sure what to expect.

This time he was here for 11 days.

I managed to keep up with my normal to do list and daily activities for the first week, but both J and I noticed that the second week in, I was not quite as motivated.  This was true of my submission to J, too.

I sometimes wonder what people would think if they knew of our lifestyle. It would be easier (and probably more fun!) if we didn’t have to be so discreet.

My brother left on a Saturday afternoon.  J doesn’t usually spank me on weekends, but almost immediately he took my hand and led me to the bedroom.

He said, “I’m not so concerned about your chores, but your lack of submission is something we need to deal with right now.”

I undressed and laid on the bed, face up.  J spread my legs as wide as they would go and told me to make sure I did not close them.

He got a leather strap and spanked my pussy really hard twice without a pause.  He grabbed my face and said, “You agreed to be submissive to me, and just because we have visitors does not mean our rules about that are no longer valid.”

We spoke for a few minutes about our agreed upon lifestyle and he asked me if there was anything I disagreed with or changed my mind about.  I said “no.”

He then proceeded to spank my pussy with that strap with more force than he’s ever used. I was near tears when he stopped.

He held me for a few minutes, and then asked me if I wanted to cum. I of course said yes and he said, “Maybe later.”

My clit is currently throbbing, but at least I got to cum 2 weeks ago!  I’ll post about that next time.

Not Allowed to Cum

We knew when we bought this house that we’d have some projects. Unfortunately, largely due to my procrastinating, we hadn’t made much progress. However, in the past couple of months we’ve gotten several of them completed and are working toward the next one.

J says it’s amazing how much better my attitude is and how much more motivated I am with daily spankings. We will be continuing these daily spankings, since they seem to be doing so much good for us.

We always have a lot of fun when I’m hot and horny all the time, so J has decided that I am not allowed to cum. But, there is something I can do to change that. Like most men, J loves getting head. He likes it even more when I swallow. I do not enjoy that part at all. J says if I want to cum, I can….as soon as I swallow his cum. It’s been 2 weeks so far and I want to cum so badly that I’m squirming in my seat!

J likes to spread my legs open and rub my clit until I’m so close to cumming, while he tells me not to cum. It’s so difficult, but I know that if I do cum, I’ll receive a pussy spanking. And not like the daily ones. This will be a punishment spanking, which I definitely do not want. So I concentrate very hard on not cumming.

I’m not going to be able to hold out much longer, though. J likes teasing me, so I know this is fun for him, but he’ll be really glad when I finally swallow.

Standing in the Corner, Waiting & Reflecting

Before every spanking, I remove all of my clothes and stand in the corner, while I wait for J. I usually end up standing there for 10 to 20 minutes. During this time I can clearly think about the spanking I am about to get, and the reasons why, without any distractions.

For the daily motivation spanking, this means that I think about how many more things I’ve been able to get done since we started this, how much more motivated I have been, how these spankings seem to keep me going when I want to stop. The spankings hurt, but when I imagine what a punishment spanking would feel like, it makes me stick to accomplishing the things I said I would.

For the daily submission spankings, I think about how J works so hard at his career and he provides for us in many ways to give us this charmed life, there’s no reason why I can’t give him the pleasure he desires. I told him I would be sexually submissive to him, and when he spanks my pussy I am reminded of this. And again, I would not want to get a punishement spanking, so this is a good reminder of how much worse that would be.

By the time J comes in, I am usually in a submissive mood and ready to get spanked. J doesn’t lecture me all the way through the spankings, but he does go over the things we’ve discussed and always asks me if I disagree with anything or if anything needs to be altered in the way we are doing things. So far the only thing we’ve changed is the weekends are now off days, as far as spankings go. We are just too busy and we have found it is good to relax from all the weekly demands.

Daily Spankings For Submission

In the last post I talked about daily spankings for motivation. We are also spanking for submission training.

I am naturally sexually submissive, but don’t always make the extra effort to show it. Daily pussy spankings help in this area.

These daily spankings occur separately from the motivation spankings I get. Though they are similar. Both are meant as reminders and to help me imagine what a punishment spanking would be, so that I avoid it.

J mostly uses his hand and a light leather strap for the pussy spankings. Occasionally he uses a crop and a thin light piece of wood. All of them sting in different ways and leave a short but effective impression.

There is something freeing about being sexually submissive to my husband. Our sex life is amazing when we devote time to this.

We are several weeks in and though it’s not always easy for me, my levels of submission seem to have pleased J. And that makes me happy.

Daily Spankings For Motivation

J and I had a long discussion the other evening about discipline and spankings and related things we’ve tried. We agreed that things not only run smoother, but we also have lots more fun when we are practicing our version of DD (domestic discipline). I say our version because we don’t subscribe to any specific doctrine or rules about DD. We do what works for us, and that has involved a lot of trial and error over the years. Sometimes we try something new and it works well for us, othertimes we abandon it for something more effective.

We decided I needed some training to get back on track. To us, this is a way for me to practice my motivation and submission to J. The training is something new for us. It requires daily attention, which is something we did not have time for in the past.

I have trouble staying motivated, and I often put things off that need to get done, but when J spanks me and holds me accountable, it helps me immensely. I find that I want to get everything done on my to do list; I want to accomplish what I say I’m going to accomplish. Simple as that.

Since nothing we have ever tried has ever worked long term for us we decided to do something a little bit different. So I have been getting daily spankings. In the past we tried weekly spankings, but I found that after a day or two I forgot about them and slacked off. With this daily reminder, I am constantly thinking about it. The effectiveness of this was noticable almost immediately by both myself and J.

The daily spanking isn’t severe, it is not a punishment. It is meant to keep me focused and remind me that a punishment will be much worse and not something that will be easy for either of us. J has been alternating between using his hand, a large round wooden paddle, and a thick wide leather strap. As he spanks me, he reminds me of what I said I want to accomplish.

I feel comforted by these daily spankings. For one, I know that I don’t have to purposely skip something on my to do list when I want a spanking. Nor do I have to ask for a spanking. Simply put, I know I am going to get spanked. Every. Day.

I am also grateful that J takes the time every single day to focus solely on me and my needs, which encourages me to work even harder toward my goals.

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We are Cassady and Jack, a married couple who practice a version of Domestic Discipline (DD).

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As you may have noticed, we didn’t blog for several years. So much was happening in our lives that we didn’t have the time or energy. There were several deaths in our families that required us to be apart for months and travel back and forth between states. We also moved during that time. It was exhausting. Life has settled down again, and after many stops and starts, and lots of trial and error, we are back on track.

I’m hoping to have more time to devote to the blog from now on.

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